Kids, our legacy, our nation, our future. Life has more meaning when you know you have a part of you, a piece of yourself, one you love and cherish in the form of a real human.
Sometimes life can seem to go so fast. You have so much to do building a career, having fame, making a living, craving for power, finding value, craving for recognition.
You do all these things, and sometimes lose sight of what truly matters to your kids. You live wishing you did better for your kids, passing those values, those lessons you have learned from life, those priceless words you know you should tell them to make the needed difference.
But it’s never too late, never too late to pour your heart into your kids, never too late to make them know how much you feel about them and how you think about life. For death may knock at your door at any time and your greatest regret on your death bed maybe, not relating your mind to your kids.
In this article, I bring you 19 things you must tell your kids before you die. Sharing your heart with your kid is very vital. And it is an important responsibility you must fulfill as a parent.
Not only will your kid know that you truly love them, but it also makes them respect you as a parent, and you will be at rest, that you have poured your heart into your kids. Read on.
1. I Love You
The first on the list of the things to tell your kids before you die is I Love You. No other person should your kids hear those words more than you. Let those words be something they hear from often and show them that you mean them.
If you have to say it every day, do so. Do not just say it, let them know that you truly care for them. By the sacrifices you make and the actions, you display Let your life display your love.
Love is paramount to your kids. In a world that is tough and full of pain, betrayal, hurt, your kids knowing that you love them can be the best thing they need to scale through life.
2. You Made Me See A New Meaning To Life
Having a kid opens you to new and different aspects of life. Different experiences change you in such a way you never expect and make you brand new. Your kids are the reason for that change.
You won’t have experienced a deeper and stronger sense of love if you did not have kids. You won’t have fought so hard to put yourself together if not for kids.
You won’t have held yourself so strong if not for the fact that you know your little ones are looking up to you. Your kids created a new meaning to your life, so, let them know that they helped shaped you to be a better mama, a stronger woman, and a stronger person. This is one of the things to tell my kids before I die.
3. Sorry For The Things I Have Done To Hurt You
You and your kids may have hit some high roads in life. And do not seem to agree on everything. However, it is good to say sorry when you hurt their feelings. It may not be have been your intention, but try and make it up to them.
Make them know that you are sorry for making them feel bad or hurting their feelings. It may be that you had to leave them early in life, or you were divorced from your partner and were not there every time, or you and your kid quarreled because of different opinions.
Whatever be the case, it is good to apologize and make them know that you never meant to hurt their feelings Kids are not the only ones at fault, sometimes we adults get things wrong as well. Setting bad examples, taking wrong actions, or doing something that can change the life of your kids.
Be mature enough to say I’m sorry, especially when you see that you and your kids are not in a good relationship together. On your death bed, do you want to hold a grudge with the one you bore to this world? I don’t think so. When you can say, sorry, instead of been proud because you are the parent, It makes your kids more humble. And they will readily say I’m sorry too.
4. I Am Proud Of You
Whether your kid brings in a trophy home every season or not, let him know how much you believe in him. And that you are proud of him. Make him know that no matter what despite the mistakes, or errors, that you know that in the end, he will become a great person.
When your kids know that no matter what, you are always there to advise, and correct when necessary and that you can always understand.
Then, they can reach their peak because you create an environment of motivation, encouragement, and trust. So instead of harping on their failures, making comparisons, and pressuring them to do what they do not want to. Make them feel loved and be supportive.
5. You Are A Unique Breed
You have a wealth of talents and skills inside of you that people will seek after you are a rare gem, outstanding, you do things above your peers.
Make your child know that he or she has unique traits, put this as your #5 point of things to tell your kids before you die. If you do not make him see it, they may believe that they are not up to it, that they are not up to others out there.
Your words can make the needed difference to spur them and make them begin to act optimistic. Make them believe in themselves that they can do great things. Quit dwelling on their mistakes, instead, praise them, make them know that they are great and can be greater If they work at it.
6. Remember, You Are Never Alone
In this tough and hard race of life, situations must surely come that make you feel that it is the end of the road and you feel like you cannot bear the burden anymore. Do not forget that you are never alone.
That you have God with you. He knows the best way to make you scale through the tough time. I may not be there. Your dad too may not be there. And it may be so hard. For you to know what to do.
Just call on God, with the whole of your heart and you will begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You see the future, a hope, you will see a bright light and he better beginning. This can bring much-needed assurance for your child when you depart this world.
7. People Will Disappoint You
Get used to it: The world is a beautiful place. Equally filled with bad and ugly people. That will want to hurt you. Better to realize that people, can disappoint you. With this mindset my child, you will know how to trust and the extent of trust you give people.
I do not say you shouldn’t trust but do not be too trusting. Be wise and tactful and. sometimes let people prove themselves before you commit something huge to them.
Life is not completely bad, but it would be wiser when you know that there are bad people as well as good in it. This is a vital thing to tell your kids before you die, so they can scale through life without many disappointments.
8. Live A Simple Life
Life is full of so many things that would attract you. Cars, money, people. They are a means to themselves, not the end to the means. My love. These things can mar you if you solely focus on them.
My dear Child, live a simple life. Do not desire so many things that will choke you in the process. Instead, examine your choices. Go for those things that give you peace.
Do not strive so hard to acquire material things. Instead of possessions, find true and lasting relationships. Put smiles on people’s faces, never put your happiness on the things you see or your possessions. Those things do not last. Instead, aim higher to build. And better yourself by creating, loving, and meaningful relationship. Set high goals but most importantly keep things simple.
9. Plan Early
Another thing you should tell your kid before you die is this. My dear, it is so easy to get carried away, and want to enjoy life. But the difficult thing is that to enjoy those things you need to work hard for it.
That is why you should plan early. Do not waste your time now make every moment count. The earlier you achieve, the easier life becomes for you. If you are older before you start thinking of building a life, life becomes triple difficult and more stressful.
10. Do Good To People
Let your essence be goodness. Yes, you encounter snakes. You shouldn’t be unaware of their tricks. They prey on the weak and they see good people as perfect targets to attack.
Why you shouldn’t fall for them, do not let your very essence change no matter what, for it will speak someday for you.
11. Do Not Take People For Granted
There will be those who will love you genuinely do not take that love or loyalty for granted. Make sure you show love to them also. Do not despise people.
Everybody should be treated fairly. Whether the poor, or rich. Give them an equal dose of respect. Do not let a rich man’s riches make you maltreat or despise the poor man. In the final things, everyone is equal before God.
12. Show Gratitude
You may not have all you want in life, but be happy with the little you have gotten and be thankful for it. Living a life of gratitude will help you become a better person and creates room for you to receive more.
If you never say thank you to what you see as little things you will never get satisfied.
13. You Will Make Mistakes In Life
Making mistakes is inevitable. I hope you learn early not to make costly mistakes. Try as much as possible to avoid mistakes, but if you make anyone do not be so hard on yourself that you let it overcome your life. More importantly, learn from your mistakes. The lesson you learn from it is what truly matters.
14. Think For Yourself
People will always want to tell you things and give you suggestions. Sometimes out of a good heart, other times to suit their purpose. You can get to a tough point where you get stuck and may be tempted to things to please others.
However, do not yield to them. Learn to think for yourself. If the help you have to give, goes against what is right do not sit well with you no matter what do not do it.
15. Experience Life
I prevented myself a lot from experiencing so many things because. I thought I would be more focused that way. Life is too short. Make every moment count. Have your own. Experiences do not hold your life down for something that is not worth it.
16. Learning Never Ends
Parents, an important thing to tell your kids before you die is that learning never ends. My kids do not stop learning anytime. Constantly seek to learn something every day a new skill, learn about people, about your environment, even a new skill.
Be open to learn and relearn. Do not also think you know it all and refuse to accept new ideas. Always have an open mind to things from the old, young, rich, poor.
17. Live Healthier
Your health is super important and the actions you take every day determines your health in the long run. So be conscious of your health. Leave right, eat right exercise.
Avoid bad associations. Do not eat stuff just because you love them. Make sure you look at the content before eating anything. Do regular check-ups. All this counts to live a better and longer life.
18. It Is Never Too Late To Try Again
It is never too late to do the things that you always wanted to do. Even if somehow you have missed out on one or two things in life. My dear, since you have life, you can still try again.
19. Do Not Worry So Much
This is the last point I will be dropping on my 19 things to tell your kids before you die list. My kids, in life, there are a lot of things to worry about. Always worrying about how it will be done will only make things worse.
Do not live in worry my child, having to worry about everything will only lead to stress. Instead, plan, do your bid, and let God have his way.
Save for later mama!
Beautiful.